Are you asking for everyone else's opinion??
I read this a while back in my inbox…
Your joy factor will remain constant as you are continually refining your ideas of what you want, and that’s why it is so important for you to get everybody else out of the equation. They’ve got their own game going on; they don’t understand your game. Give them a break; stop asking them what they think. Start paying attention to how you feel. Joy will be yours immediately, and everything else that you have ever thought would make you happy, will start flowing, seemingly effortlessly, into your experience.
—Abraham
and it got me thinking about how often people ask others opinions. It made me wonder then how many people lose sight of their own dreams from the input of others, invited in, by you!
Maybe it is a form of self sabotage?
I know that many people think that we should worry about what others think.. that somehow disappointing society will affect us in great ways.
That if we don’t “live up” to the ideas, dreams or visions that our family, our friends or our role models have of us, that we will fail, have no value… and that, for many… that might just kill us.
HOWEVER…
Would it be truer to say….
If I don’t “step into, try or do” the ideas, dreams or visions that I have in my heart, mind and soul that I will feel like I have failed me, that I am not valuing the life I have been given… and that, for many… might just kill me.
I believe life truly is about LOVE… and when we are not loving to our self
to our ideas…
to our dreams…
to our visions…
we become resentful of everyone else…
and then our dreams are dead, gone or unfulfilled.
I have found that when you ask everyone what they think about whatever it is you are doing, you tend to water down your dream or vision based on their input.
Maybe it is time to just follow your own heart..
your own guidance…
Maybe today, you could just ask yourself..
just you…
What do I want?
and then just listen:)
Please share in the comments below if this resonates with you in any way – Sunny Dawn Johnston
Blog Categories
More Interesting Posts
How Can I Serve Humanity?
Excuse #5 for Lack of Self-Care
Excuse #4 for Lack of Self-Care
12 thoughts on “Are you asking for everyone else's opinion??”
Sometimes
Your opinion is the only one that matters!!! Listen to your heart… it will always show you the way my friend!!
Always ask your heart my friend … it will guide you!!
Always a great reminder! Thanks.
So glad you enjoyed my blog my friend!!
“in what my *heart* is practically screaming.” ~ correction
Holy cow. I literally was just wondering if I was sabotaging myself by asking opinions of others LAST NIGHT. Usually I find my inner spark burn out after soliciting an opinion from another. I lose confidence in what my heat is practically screaming. Then I end up sad and confused. And I was pondering if maybe it’s best to just go within and start trusting myself. This is great insight, Sunny, and loved the Abraham quote as well. Thank you. xoxo
People please was my first name. I still struggle with this but I am getting better! Thank you for the encouragement and wisdom!
This is so true.. My whole life I have worried about what others thought of me.. I seeked for external validation instead of that internal validation. Now I have learned through and from you to love myself enough and to trust myself enough that I have all the answers I need within me. That I am good enough being me. and that me is pretty darn fabulous. I thank you for allowing me to heal and grow in identifying my 5 fears of not feeling enough, worthy, liked, being judged and giving my power away so now I am creating the life of my dreams. I love you dear Teacher Sunny Dawn Johnston.
How amazing are the synchronicity’s of life!!! I just made this post this morning in my FB group… How many of you allow what others think, feel and say about you determine your value and worth??? I know I have done that for more years than I can remember!!! It was like PLEASE!! Pat me on top of my head and tell me how good I am… that I am worthy of your love and attention!! When I didn’t get that acknowledgement I viewed myself as a failure … that no one could possibly care about me!! It has been an internal battle that has gone on inside of me for a long time. What I have grown to realize is… The more I am learning to LOVE and ACCEPT MYSELF… the less important it is to me to look outside of myself for the valuation of worthiness!!! I am innately worth of ALL that is good!! How about you???
OMG – divine timing! Driving into work today I was thinking of this exact subject and realized how much I’ve let others’ opinions hold me back for my entire life and I became emotional and started crying. As a kid I did things that were not authentic to who I was just to feel included. I allowed those opinions to prevent me from living my true self and holding me back from my life’s passion and purpose. The fear of criticism, the fear of being made fun of, the fear of failure, fear of asking for help. Guidance tells me to follow my heart but my head keeps me spinning. But this is posting is a confirmation to be true to who I am and my desires and there will be those that fall away and those that support. Diving timing indeed, now wiping away my tears, runny mascara and runny nose.
Bonnie West ,I have been examining my life.Since childhood,I craved acceptance. I was a class clown because I felt the laughter was for me being funny. I felt accepted for a second, but It was laughter at me. I wanted to please everyone to be accepted. Of course I found no true friendships,because I was a constant giver but still rejected,and criticized.Around 10,I found a group of 4 real friends. Even with these true friends,I was always seeking approval from others with no success. My group of friends went our separate ways after high school,for many years. In college,I still struggled for approval.In 4 years,I never had a close friend.I felt lonely,depressed,and unworthy of friendship. Recently,I took charge of myself. I told my children and my husband that I no longer would accept verbal abuse. My 4 friends have been reunited now for many years,(a total of 60 years). I still would like to have acceptance,but I am starting to love myself. It is a difficult work in progress. I have chosen to follow Sunny Dawn Johnson’s path of guidance.