How do you learn to love yourself?

It is a question I am asked all of the time. HOW????? When i think back to how I began the process of learning to love myself, it was 10 steps. When I was 19 years old, i read a book called You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay. I am sure you have herd of it, and have probably read it. It has sold millions and millions of copies world wide. It was a transformational LIFE CHANGING book for me. When i read it the first time, I just had more questions. Some seeds got planted, but I didn’t really do anything with them.
However, somehow, they were watered. Six months later, I picked the book up again, and this time, not only did I read it, but I really READ it. Like I FELT it, I DID the exercises. I GOT IT!
It changed my life. The first thing I did was start talking nicer to myself. It was sooooo HARD, but I did it. I figured, what I was doing wasn’t working, so I might as well try something different. Within 9 months, I had moved out of my VERY unhealthy alcoholic boyfriends “shack” with my 14 month old son. I began to find some self esteem. I started to see some value, make some plans, show up differently.
27f8c91It is a very long story, and one i don’t need to share here, but the purpose of sharing it is.. YOU CAN LEARN to LOVE YOURSELF. I DID! Check out these 10 steps by Louise Hay. Which ones can you adopt, right now? Which ones are you willing to work one..today? Will you make a commitment to yourself, this minute, to take a step towards self love? If you will, I’ll be here to hold your hand. I know how scary it can be.. to let go of the old story, but come on..it is SOOOO OLD! Right?
So, check out the steps below and share with us in the comments… what steps you are willing to take? I can’t wait to watch your life blossom too.. It really does work:) My favorites are #1 and #9:) GAME CHANGERS!!!!!!!!!

How to LOVE yourself – Louise Hay

1. Stop all criticism: Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.
2. Don’t scare yourself: Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.
3. Be gentle and kind and patient: Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.
4. Be kind to your mind: Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change the thoughts.
5. Praise yourself: Criticism breaks the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
6. Support yourself: Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends, and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.
7. Be loving to your negatives: Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So. lovingly release the old negative patterns.
8. Take care of your body: Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.
9. Mirror work: Look into your own eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too. At least once a day, say: “I love you, I really love you!”
10. LOVE YOURSELF – DO IT NOW! Don’t wait until you get well or lose the weight, or get the new job, or find the new relationship. Begin NOW – do the best you can.
Motivational-Monday-10-Commandments-on-how-to-love-yourselfPlease share below what you are willing to do to begin the journey of self love – SDJ
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9 thoughts on “How do you learn to love yourself?”

  1. SUNNY:- I saw the amazing story you have shared to us “how do you learn to love your self ” .
    It is a very important story . I read carefully .Especially No. 1,4,9 and 10 are essencial tome .
    Generaly with your advice and kindness I love you so much heartly.

  2. Sunny , I have learned soo much about self Love , with the help of Sunny, Kris, Robin & Deb. The first step, for me, no Shame. The second step, honoring my feelings, FEEliNG THEM. The Next step was to STOP COMPARING MYSELF TO OTHERS. I believe I have come along way. Still more to work through and process. But, each day I feel, I glow brighter. With deepest gratitude.

  3. I love You Can Heal Your Life. Louise Hay rocks!!! She is such an example of what your life can become when you change….you too are a terrific example. The knowledge I gleaned from this book has helped me in many ways…..Thanks!!!

  4. To continue my journey of self-love, I chose my top 3 steps that speak to me right now…1) I am willing to love myself…and to do it now…2) I choose to praise myself…and 3) I take excellent care of my body.

  5. Amazing story you have shared with all of us, Sunny. I found that book a long time ago, and it had a profound impact on me, too. To this day, I read it often. Everything in the book has helped me, and helped others when I shared it. Even had others go looking to purchase their own copy. Mine is by my bedside, and will always be there. Thank you for starting off my day this way.

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