Focus on Your Relationship with You
Relationship alert! Are your priorities in order?
The most important relationship in your life is the one you have with you! That may startle some of you… especially if you are used to putting everyone and everything else before you and your needs.
And so it bears repeating: the most important relationship in your life is the one you have with you!
Know why this is true?
Because every single relationship in your life extends from and is affected by your relationship with you.
The happier you are with you, the happier your relationships are. The more you like and accept yourself, the more you attract people to you who like and accept you. When you stop tolerating bad behavior from others, situations you were tolerating shift because you are empowering yourself, honoring yourself and enforcing your boundaries. All signs of a healthy relationship with Self.
When you come from a needy or wounded heart, you hope (and secretly expect) the outside world will give you the love, approval, and support and validation you seek. So you do things for others with that as an unspoken underlying intention. And instead you receive the opposite of what you were hoping for, which reinforces the negative (and untrue) belief you have about yourself.
You are the only person who can give you the love, approval and validation you seek, and end to the pattern of looking to others to fill you up. Every tiny step you take in the direction of loving yourself, honoring yourself, accepting yourself and approving of yourself is reflected back to you by others treating you in the same improved way.
February is a 2 vibration in Numerology. The essence of the 2 vibration is about relationships. And since 2017 is a 1 vibration year (and the start of a new cycle), and the 1 vibration is about individuality, owning what is uniquely you and creating from that space, it stands to reason that this February’s 2 vibration is shining the spotlight on your relationship with yourself. Guiding you to make yourself and your needs a priority.
If you’d like a refresher on the energy of 2017, you can read about it here: https://sunnydawnjohnston.com/blog/2017-kicks-off-a-whole-new-cycle-we-are-moving-into-a-1-vibration-are-you-ready/
In addition to Relationships of every flavor, including Partnerships and Collaborations, the number 2 is also about Balance, Peace, Compromise, Cooperation, Teamwork, Patience, Diplomacy, Choice, Duality, and seeing things from a different perspective.
Use the gift of February’s 2 vibration to begin developing a better relationship with all the amazing aspects that make up your beautiful and unique Self. Here are a few examples for you to explore:
- Self-care: What do you do to take care of you (body, mind, emotions, spirit, etc.)? Are you making this a priority? How can you show yourself more love and support? What do you need to feel good about yourself? What simple things can you do each day in this area?
- Your body: Are you comfortable in your body? Do you like your body? Do you accept your body “as is” or are you judging it and you because of whatever flaws you believe you have? What can you do each day to show gratitude for your body and all it does for you?
- Health and fitness: Are you getting some exercise and eating well? Are you paying attention to signs your body is under stress? Are you getting enough sleep and rest? What else can you do to improve your health and fitness?
- Work and Home: Are you asking for help when you need it? Are you over-giving? Are you trying to manage and control everything? Do you have boundaries in place? What one thing can you do now to improve your work and home life?
- Relationships with others: Become aware of which ones are supporting you and which ones are undermining you, which ones are out of balance, which ones are toxic. What changes can you make in the dysfunctional relationships? What decisions is it time to make? What boundaries are needed? What do you need to stop tolerating and believing?
Healthy self-focus can be awkward at first. So I invite you to ask your Guides and Angels for support in this. I often ask Archangel Michael for strength and wisdom, and Archangel Gabriel for courage and clarity to help do something that scares or challenges me (aka a growth opportunity!). And I ask Archangel Chamuel for help with self-love and self-acceptance. I ask Archangel Jophiel for help in seeing my beauty and the beauty that surrounds me, as well as to help me tap into my joy and creativity.
Some other ways the 2 vibration may show up for you this month are:
Inner Peace and Balance: The student requires the outer world to be peaceful in order for inner peace to be felt. The maser knows that by finding and consistently returning to Inner Peace and Balance, the chaos and disharmony in the outer world cannot upset her balance. Cultivating peace is an inside job. Finding and maintaining your center requires discipline. Yet both are achievable.
The world is going through major changes and will continue to do so for quite some time. It will serve your health, well-being and state of mind to learn to center, re-establish your balance, and find your inner peace. Some days will be easier than others. Some days it all flies out the window. And that’s ok. Practice again, and again, until it becomes a habit and eventually a natural part of who you are. No judgments! Baby steps!
Patience and Diplomacy: The 1 vibration of 2017 wants everything done right now. Breathe. Allow things to work in their natural cycle. Notice when and where and with whom you become impatient. Question it. What is this really about? What is the urgency? What is the fear that hides beneath the story you tell about why it needs to happen a certain way and by a specific time?
People are going through stressful times and impatience only adds fuel to the fire. Breathe. Breathe again. Center yourself. The delay may be in your best interest. It might be protecting you.
Interacting with people may require diplomacy on your part. Yes, speak your mind honestly, and do it with kindness and compassion. As my Grandmother used to say “You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.”
Choice and Compromise: You are allowed to choose. Nothing can move forward toward what you desire until you make a choice. Decide you want “this” instead of “that.” Choosing is especially important now because 2017’s 1 vibration is prodding you to decide what you really want and who you really are and want to become.
This month, look at your relationships (including the one with yourself) and notice what decisions and choices that you’ve been avoiding, fearing or have been uncertain about. Stop letting that swirling energy keep you stuck. Make a choice. Pick something “for now.” You are allowed to change your mind or make tweaks along the way. Choose something so you can harness the energy of the new cycle this year and start moving forward toward your goals and desires.
Keep in mind, sometimes a compromise is necessary. And when you do have to compromise, look for the win-win-solution. I often ask Angels to help me with a benevolent outcome.
The Shadow-side of the 2 vibration may show up as impatience, codependency, trying to keep the peace at all costs (usually at a high cost to yourself and self-esteem), indecisiveness, argumentative, indifference, oversensitivity, and resentment. Just be aware when these elements show up. Then be willing to look at what they are trying to show you. Often it points to a belief about who you are and how you deserve to be treated that is simply not true. What can you do instead to make small (or large) changes to improve your relationship with yourself?
Remember, the most important relationship you have is the one you have with yourself, because all your other relationships reflect this back to you.
Make YOU a priority in your life. Ask yourself each day: “How do I feel?” What do I need?” If it is something you can give to yourself, do it! If it requires assistance or support from someone else, be willing to ask… and receive!
And this Valentine’s Day, give yourself a Valentine treat and do something special for yourself.
With love, blessings and appreciation
Spiritual Teacher, Intuitive Numerologist, Past Life Therapist, Speaker, Writer
Karen works “guided by Spirit” — blending intuition, wisdom and metaphysical and spiritual teachings with practical guidance, compassion and a wickedly playful sense of humor. She empowers healers, holistic practitioners, creatives and heart-centered professionals to get unstuck, take back their power, own their gifts and learn to love and accept themselves… exactly how they are… right here, right now. She is available for private sessions. Connect with Karen at www.TheLifeCraftingGuide.com and https://www.facebook.com/karen.m.winkelman.lifecrafting