Death, Dying and the Soul’s Transition

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Nikola Tesla states: “If you want to find the secrets of the Universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.”

We are souls/spirit having a human experience.  We are energy.  We are spirit embodied.  When we die, we drop the body … The spirit, the soul continues and lives on.  Energy can never be destroyed. It only changes forms.

“Death in the physical world is rebirth back in heaven” – SDJ

My goal with this blog is to help you consider a different perspective of death.  Not to stop the grief, but perhaps put a different perspective to it. So many people struggle with the death process and with a sense of loss – and understandably so.  This sense of loss can then hold them back from living life fully.  So many people feel guilt, pain, shame and the tragedy of loss … and this can block them from the light and the love of the soul connection.

I share this as someone who has experienced much death in her own life … My grandmother froze to death walking in below 0-degree temperatures while suffering from Alzheimer’s. Three friends took their own lives over the past 10 years. Countless clients have died in a variety of ways, and of course, my family has not been immune to death, with the passing of my aunt and my cousin in the past 9 months. I am sharing this from a perspective of someone who absolutely believes in the afterlife, and experiences it on a daily basis with my clients as well as in my own personal life. I also experience grief, sadness, and the feelings of loss for moments of time, until I am reminded again … that life lives on. Spirit is constantly reminding me of this. As a medium, it has become important for me to also remind others … not to deny the feeling of grief or sadness or loss, but to bring acknowledgement and hope to the fact that when ready (and there is no amount of time that is right), you very well will continue that connection with your loved ones … in whatever way you choose. That is not to deny or judge your pain in any way, but instead to offer you, again, when ready, an opportunity to know … they are with you. When we are ready to look for them, for the signs and the messages, they will show themselves to us … in their new form.

I want to affirm that it indeed is a choice to see, feel, hear and know love, peace, harmony and connection to your loved ones after their physical transition.  I am not saying it is an easy choice, as we want them physical again. Most people do. It is a choice of the heart.  A reminder that the love connection is never lost.  You have the ability to connect to your loved ones through the connection of the heart.  I have learned that where you put your focus is what you will experience.  When you focus on the loss and the absence, then that is what you will experience.  When you focus on their presence and in the signs and messages they send when you ask, then that is what you will experience. Neither is right or wrong, they are simply ways to walk through the experience … different and each divine in their own right.

“You cannot focus on the absence of your loved ones in spirit and experience the presence of them.” – SDJ

Be open and willing to feel your feelings through the pain of the loss. There is no “right” way or “wrong” way to do this and there is also no “right” or “wrong” amount of time.

One suggestion I have is to invite Archangel Michael into your space to help you maintain your own energy and then you can open up and feel the connection to your loved one.  Trust that you are indeed safe with this powerful Archangel of protection, courage and strength.

Being present and aware of your loved one’s presence.  Pay attention to the signs that they send you.

Some signs are:

Songs on the radio, cloud shapes, coins, feathers, smells, goosebumps.  Ask them for a sign that you understand.

Grief is so personal, and my experience is that no two people grieve the same way.  There is the traditional way of grief, moving through the five stages

  1. Denial
  2. Anger
  3. Bargaining
  4. Depression
  5. Acceptance

Many people don’t experience the stages in order and that is ok.  The key here is to understand the stages are not absolute and you may or may not go through all of them.  Consider looking at them as a guide in the grieving process.

Then there is the new way of looking at it through the eyes of love.  That we only drop the body and that the love of who we are lives on in spirit.

You can’t choose when grief comes into your life, but you can choose how to walk through it.  Listen to the lessons it brings, express the loss in a healthy way and allow yourself the acceptance that you deserve. Blessings to you – SDJ♥

How have you walked the journey of healing through the loss of your loved one? What has worked for you? I’d love to hear and I am sure others would too:)   Comment below:)

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    1. Hi Connie. It seems like five weeks is a brief amount of time in the grieving process. It sounds like you and your sister are really close. Have you tried talking to her out loud twice a day or anytime you have something to share in your day? I am finding that I need to “practise” not judging myself in how I grieve. Just allowing those feelings and move through them when I’m ready. I’m good for a while and then I need to just allow. So sorry for your loss on this earthly plane. Love to you.

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      I am sorry to hear of your loss! It takes time for our hearts to heal and for us to find a sense of peace once again. I have a couple of books that maybe of interest to you. One is called the Love Never Ends. Here is the link to our boutique to see if you can find some support and deepen the knowing she is right beside you!! https://sunnydawnjohnstonboutique.com/product-category/books/ Sending you lots of love and support my friend!!

  1. This may sound strange to many of you. When I was 27 years old my mother died, and I was heartbroken over it. I moved through my grief by writing her letters every month. Of course I never mailed them. I spoke to a psychologist about it years later, and he said that it was a healthy form of healing and my way of keeping her alive until I was ready to cope with her loss,

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      Writing is a great way to move that energy of grief and your spirit tapped into that!! Thank you so much for sharing!!!

  2. Hi, I love this article. My Mother passed away almost 6 years ago. She was not in good health and it was her time. I understood then the principle of asking for signs and trying to receive comfort in some way. While I do understand how nice it would be for me to give her a hug and feel her arms wrapped around me again….. she does actually let me know she’s there when I ask her for a sign. Most of the time she let’s me know in 1 of 2 ways. I can’t explain the why behind it, but I know that it is her every time I find a penny/dime on the ground – I smile and say “thanks Mom”. Also, “777” means something to me (biblical I suppose), so every time I see the number 777 I smile because I know it is her (she was a lovely Christian woman). You wouldn’t believe how many times I am caught off guard as I will be driving and all of the sudden a car/truck with 777 on their license plate shows up in front of me! I just smile and say “Hi Mom”. Or I am walking along and all of the sudden I look down and see a coin on the ground. So I do believe what Sunny is saying is so true. It has happened to me too many time to be coincidental.

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  3. I love my inspirational comments each morning from Sunny. This article is so meaningful for me. A person who I dated over 50 years ago passed away over 3 years ago. I had an unusual experience at the wake and then incredible deep grief that has cost me so much money to understand over the years. I even wrote a memoir regarding it and someday if I can figure out the publishing process have it published in honor of him. I have a relationship from beyond that is incredible and whether it is defined as twin flame, soul family not having had closure matters little. The point is my grief is real and even when I give 100% to focusing on everyday life awareness of him is so with me. Too much to write but thank you. No my life is not paralyzed from this but certainly not what I ever experienced or knew could even happen.

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  4. I too have suffered from the loss of family members and others, but I also have many lovely stories of visitations from my family, they are never far away from you if you have eyes to see. I love this blog from Sunny and I believe that what was said was true. Thank you Sunny

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  5. Thanks Sunny….. Great relevant article… Wendy, my love’s passing totally devastated me & prompted me to re-evaluate all my beliefs about life/afterlife & consciousness.
    2 1/2 years now and I am SOOOOO aware of Wendy’s presence, from the smell of her perfume briefly (when cooking with strong garlic), to frequent feathers, to broken doorbells ringing (that she loved to ring playfully) to pictures falling off the wall within a MINUTE of asking for a sign at 147 a.m. one morning when I missed her alot. …. I, too, have not deprived myself of grieving & feeling the loss & sadness AND balancing that with loving wonderful memories… Our connection is a huge blessing. I have learned sooooo much from her, when HERE physically AND since her passing. Someone said she is your greatest teacher NOW……… I can’t deny the sadness as it’s only right to be true to me & honor my feelings AND…The greatest gift>>> is I HAVE LOVED AND THAT LOVE DOES CONTINUE. To all others facing the physical loss of a loved one… the grief is certainly real AND listen and observe all the possible capital C Coincidences (that’s a pure & rea connection) from them reaching out to you. I am immensely grateful to you, Sunny, for your assistance in this darkest time of my life… and things ARE improving.

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  6. Thanks for this article Sunny! I lost my mom in 2014 followed by my nephew that same year. Just recently I lost my dad in August last year. I came home from work and found him dead in the backyard. A very traumatic experience and no one has been around to ease my suffering. I don’t know that I’ve completely adapted to this new normal again, however, we have no choice but to move forward and accept the transition. I think what has been the most difficult for me is that none of the passings (on the earth plane anyway), seemed gentle..my mom wasted away by not being able to eat, my nephew had brain cancer and Dad his heart just gave out apparently. Grief is a very personal experience I have found and not many people stick around to support you. So while I may cry my silent tears or one day just bawl over the loss..I present quite a different picture to the world..and even though I physically walk alone I know I’m not and remember that someday this too shall pass.

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  7. Hi I lost my only brother and last immediate family member. 14 months ago. He was my best friend. I am still grieving greatly. I get signs every day from him. Songs smells pennies feathers dreams etc. I truly mean everyday. I’m overwhelmed by his strong undoubted presence. Advice on what it all means would be appreciated. Ty

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      When we allow ourselves to be open to the many ways spirit speaks to us we can begin to see that our loved ones are close by offering their love and support when we need it or ask and remain open to receive! Thank you for sharing your experience my friend!!

  8. When my father passed away 12 years ago I experienced the greatest loss I had ever experienced. But I believed with all my heart that if my dad could extend his love to us he would. And he did in so many ways. From a soft touch, to lights blinking, bright shiny pennies wrapped in cellophane, songs on the radio, goosebumps, dreams, fortune cookie, and the list goes on. He knew, I am certain that maintaining the connection was as important to me as I believe it was for him. I am so thankful to still experience his love to this day. What a beautiful blessing. Thank you Sunny. I love this post.

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  9. Hie! I LOST my grandfather almost 13 years back wen i was in class 7/8. He was really close to my heart and till now i get dreams of him which i so real that i feel as if i met him all over again n i hug him in my dreams n talk with him smtyms . Is this also a sign or a connection?? Plz let me know.

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      Absolutely!! Our loved ones coming to us in our dreams is a great way to connect!! We are in a relaxed state and open! Thank you so much for sharing your experience!!

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  10. My husbands twin brother committed suicide 3 years ago. My husband is so stuck in anger. It’s affecting our marriage. I just cannot figure how to help him. Please any suggestions.

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  11. This is also true with animals. They have a clear understanding of life and death. Losing them for me is losing a family member bit their energetic presence is forever present. The greatest gift we can offer them and ourselves is continue to love…! Grief is just another face of love; one does not come w/out the other ❣

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